How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have: A Practical and Spiritual Guide to Personal Success Reviews

How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have: A Practical and Spiritual Guide to Personal Success

Here’s the book to help you get what you want–and be happy with what you have. John Gray, the man responsible for helping millions of people improve their relationships in his bestselling Mars and Venus books, has written the essential guide to personal success.

Combining insights from Western psychology and Eastern meditation, he presents an innovative and proven method to become happy, confident, and at peace through four easy-to-follow steps:

Set Your Intention: Recognize where you are now and determine where you need to go in order to achieve success.

Get What You Need: Learn how to get what you need in order to be true to yourself.

Get What You Want: Create outer success without sacrificing inner happiness.

Remove the Blocks to Personal Success: Recognize what is holding you back and clear the way for both inner and outer success.

Stop living by the age-old adage “the grass is always greener on the other side.” It’s not. You have everything within your reach right now to live a rich and fulfilling life. How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have will help you release your emotional blocks so that you can realize your soul’s desire.

There is a secret to personal success. Read this book and not only will you learn that secret, but you will be well on your way to achieving your goals.

Create the Life You Want

John Gray, the author of the Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus relationship classic, now presents a brilliantly innovative program for achieving personal success. The wisdom and techniques in these pages will enable you to fell greater joy, love, confidence, and peace.

Some wise words from How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have

Your experience of the world reflects your inner state.

Whenever you are not getting what you need, you are always looking in the wrong direction.

Find your soul’s desire, and start getting everything you want.

Material success can only make you happy if you are already happy.

The power to get what you want comes from confidence, positive felling, and desire.

You have the power to change. No one else can do it for you.What you want materially and what you want spiritually are both important, says John Gray, Ph.D., in How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have. “Wanting more is the nature of our soul, mind, heart, and senses,” he says. As an antidote of sorts to the sometimes overly strict books of late that advocate a life of utter simplicity, he concedes that it’s okay to want a big promotion or fancy car. It’s also noble to want a solid spiritual life and to want to be at peace with yourself. However, he says, you need to recognize and work on the many self-defeating behaviors that may be thwarting your chances for reaching your goals. In fact, he identifies 24 typical stumbling blocks to look for.

How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have is perfect for the ostensibly successful businesspeople who can’t explain why they’re miserable, or people who blame their partners for their miseries instead of looking inward. It’s filled with anecdotes and tools to help you achieve a fuller sense of identity. Gray says that one of the most important steps to reaching this level of self-awareness is meditation, and Gray gives dozens of stepping-off points for meditation exercises to help you ascertain what exactly it is that you want, and how to remove any obstacles–whether external or internal. Take it from a man who used to be so ascetic that he was rendered homeless but now has achieved a strong sense of self and has managed to write nine bestselling books: both spiritual and material success are within your grasp.

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Children Are from Heaven: Positive Parenting Skills for Raising Cooperative, Confident, and Compassionate Children

  • ISBN13: 9780060930998
  • Condition: NEW
  • Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.

This brilliantly original and practical system for parenting children is the brainchild of John Gray, whose Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus books and seminars have helped millions of adults communicate more effectively and lovingly with each other. Based on this idea that children respond better to positive rather than negative reinforcement, the Children Are from Heaven program concentrates on rewarding, not punishing, children and fostering their innate desire to please their parents.

Central to this approach are the five positive messages your children need to learn again and again:

It’s okay to be different.
It’s okay to make mistakes.
It’s okay to express negative emotions.
It’s okay to want more.
It’s okay to say no, but remember Mom and Dad are the bosses.

Psychologist John Gray (he of Men Are from Mars… fame) cites a need to shift from “fear-based parenting” (a punitive and oppressive approach to child rearing) to “love-based parenting” (which accepts children’s desires and negative emotions while still setting reasonable limits). With child and teen violence increasing, rampant low self-esteem, substance abuse, teen pregnancy, and attention deficit disorder, he says, “the Western free world is experiencing a crisis in parenting. Almost all parents today are questioning both the old and the new ways of parenting. Nothing seems to be working.”

He suggests “Five Messages of Positive Parenting” that will facilitate such a shift:

  1. It’s okay to be different.
  2. It’s okay to make mistakes.
  3. It’s okay to express negative emotions.
  4. It’s okay to want more.
  5. It’s okay to say no, but remember mom and dad are the bosses.

Although his parenting philosophy is not necessarily revolutionary (think “positive discipline”), Gray manages to keep this parenting primer contemporary by weaving in specific challenges of new-millennium families–such as our tendency to be consumer-driven and overscheduled. “When parents learn what their children really need, they are less motivated to create money to acquire things and more motivated to create time to enjoy their family,” Gray writes. “The greatest wealth for a parent today is time.” –Gail Hudson

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10 Responses to “How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have: A Practical and Spiritual Guide to Personal Success Reviews”

  1. Anonymous Says:

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    I enjoyed this book immensely and recommend it to everyone interested in making the most of their life. I’ve read a lot of self-help books on how to attain success through various steps, but this one truly addresses what it takes to get what you want. I learned that life’s not about getting more and more — it’s about appreciating what you have and also making it okay to go for more. It tells how to break through emotional blocks, something that I saw John Gray do on his Oprah Personal Success series that aired in the Fall. If a person puts into practice what Dr. Gray suggests, good results will happen, I have no doubt. It’s already happening in my life. This is no doubt the best investment in a book that I’ve ever made.

  2. Ms Diva Says:

    Review by Ms Diva for How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have: A Practical and Spiritual Guide to Personal Success
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    I expected to hate this book. I got it for free because a box of books was donated to my office for our garage sale (we’re a non profit agency). Surprisingly, I generally thought the book was pretty good. Despite the fact that the phrase “love tank” is corny, Gray’s point is a good one. He is trying to show people that true happiness and success isn’t measured through the external trappings of wealth — without an inner life, and an inner sense of worth, people will constantly try to fill up their emptiness with stuff. And all the “stuff” in the world won’t make up for what is lacking in good relationships, a sense of emotional well being, spiritual development, and community. I agree with him there.I don’t however, necessarily accept that you need all ten types of love to be happy. I do know people who don’t have a romantic partner who are quite satisfied with their lives. Same with people who don’t have children. The latter especially didn’t fit for me — Gray argues that being an aunt or belonging to something like Big Sisters won’t fill you; you actually have to be a parent or have a pet, because otherwise you aren’t experiencing enough responsibility. In Western culture that may be true. In other cultures, like mine (I’m of Eastern European descent) aunts and uncles view their nieces and nephews as being like their own. I certain do with my little niece. So it isn’t as simple as Gray puts it. Oversimplification is the biggest drawback of this book, and the reason I didn’t give it five stars. There isn’t a whole lot in the book that’s particularly new. The letter writing techniques he describes can be found in other Gray books. There is a wealth of material on meditiation on the market. So if you read alot of self-help, some of the material in this book might seem redundant. This fact makes the book, which is about 310 pages, seem even longer than that. Gray has a chapter that talks about different crisises at various life stages. Although he doesn’t make the comparision, this chapter is reminiscent of Erik Erikson’s eight stages of man. Had Gray referred to Erikson, this chapter might’ve had more weight. I was also frustrated because I know, as someone who’s taken developmental psychology, that some of the life stages he mentions (mid life, retirement) have been shown in some studies to not result in crisis for a number of people. He makes no allusions to any evidence or research that might contradict his beliefs. In general, I was disappointed by the lack of references to other authors who share similar ideas. I did find that his chapters on identifying and addressing the twelve blocks were really useful for me. I can also see myself journalling with some of the questions he gives in Ch. 17 to help the reader explore their past. Some of the suggested meditations are pretty good, too. So overall, there is some material in the book I could see myself referring to in the future, either for my own personal work, or to help a client. If you like Gray, and/or you want to learn to deal with your emotions more effectively, I’d say that this book is worth reading.

  3. Real Screenwriter Says:

    Review by Real Screenwriter for How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have: A Practical and Spiritual Guide to Personal Success
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    This is a great book with really usable, practical advice on dealing with (Gray calls it “processing”) feelings and getting beyond the blocks that keep us from being happy. It’s not mumbo-jumbo, it’s real-world stuff. If you’re angry at your boss, for example, Gray shows you how to go “back in time” and deal with the anger at your father for abandoning the family, or whatever your case is. Instead of staying immobilized by negative emotions, Gray shows you how to work through them, feel them and then move on.Most importantly, he shows you how to really WANT what you want–how to be passionate and say, “That’s for me,” rather than being afraid to feel your goals. This is a really valuable lesson, at least for me.I’ve read this book twice. The first time I basically blew off the methods Gray teaches, thinking, “It’s too much trouble.” The second time I was ready to learn, and it really helped me reach my goals and deal with some problem areas in my life.Self-help books come in every variety from awful to incredible. This is one of the incredible ones, in my opinion, but only if you’re willing to do the work to fix things. Nothing works in a vaccuum, and nothing gets done without effort.

  4. Dr Cathy Goodwin Says:

    Review by Dr Cathy Goodwin for How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have: A Practical and Spiritual Guide to Personal Success
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    I picked up this book inadvertently — and was well-rewarded. While many popular books turn out to be fluff, this one has solid, original guidance.
    Best section: obstacles. I’ve never seen such a useful guide to overcoming blocks. Gray identifies the top fifteen blocks and follows up with guides to letting go. Underlying blame is betrayal — and blame is healed by anger. Wow!
    And so on for the other blocks. Another gem: When you’re missing unconditional love and support, a therapist may help. When you want friendly support, better to have dinner with a group of friends. Sounds simplistic, and maybe it is, but there’s no denying that some people do well with therapy, coaching and counseling while others say, “What’s the big deal?” Gray’s point may explain a lot. Definitely on my “must read” list.

  5. Anonymous Says:

    Review by for How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have: A Practical and Spiritual Guide to Personal Success
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    This book unveils powerful, yet simple truths about life how to get what we want. It can quickly strip away self-created, unconscious blocks to achieving personal success. Dr. Gray reveals, in an easy-to-read manner, practical steps and information that propels one into a new realm of awareness and experience. I am shocked at just how effective these exercises can be!! Since this book and his seminar, I can hardly keep up with the new opportunities available to me. The book suggests valuable guidelines for the inner work that has brought tremendous peace and love in my life. My dreams always seemed like “pie in the sky”, just out of reach, but now they are coming true. Hats off to Dr. Gray for sharing his astounding wisdom with us once again.

  6. Anonymous Says:

    Review by for Children Are from Heaven: Positive Parenting Skills for Raising Cooperative, Confident, and Compassionate Children
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    I am a huge fan of John Gray’s. His books on adult relationships are wonderful. This one confuses me – it’s not up to his standards. There are good points made, but the book is a chore to read. Also some conflicting advice throughout. I wish he’d re-think this and re-write it. In the meantime, if you want a good book on positive parenting try one of these: Positive Discipline, Kid Cooperation, The Discipline Book, Perfect Parenting.

  7. Anonymous Says:

    Review by for Children Are from Heaven: Positive Parenting Skills for Raising Cooperative, Confident, and Compassionate Children
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    I saw IMMEDIATE results when i applied the principles of John Gray’s “Children are from Heaven” to my 2-year old daughter. Although I was skeptical Gray’s techniques would work, not only did my 2-year old respond, but I became a happier, more relaxed, and more confident mother. I finally had an alternative to the “hard” discipline on which I was raised and the “soft” discipline that was obviously not working on my 2-year old. My pediatrician recommended this book to me and I have been spreading the word ever since! Thank you John Gray!

  8. Anonymous Says:

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    I knew for sure this would be the best parenting book yet. How in the world did it get so much publicity? I am the mother of 5 and it’s nothing new and sad to see so much confusion throughout the book by every little thing being repeated over and over. We received another book with much clearer and tried and true kid proof skills, Mommy-CEO, is bascially the same message but much more user friendly. Moms with many children want consise, simple and workable plans and we want it now!

  9. Anonymous Says:

    Review by for Children Are from Heaven: Positive Parenting Skills for Raising Cooperative, Confident, and Compassionate Children
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    John Gray’s new book is incredible. If you have children, grandchildren, nieces and nephews it’s a must. All teachers, administrators, coaches, day care professionals, or anyone at all who works with or comes into contact with children would benefit greatly from reading this insightful book. There are so many ideas, all of which give adults the tools in being successful in raising loving, compassionate, considerate children. In this day and age of teen violence and confusion John Gray has given us hope. This book will affect parentinglike Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus affected relationships. Putting both into practicewill affect many generations to come. What a world we could have. Thank you John for your insight!

  10. Anonymous Says:

    Review by for Children Are from Heaven: Positive Parenting Skills for Raising Cooperative, Confident, and Compassionate Children
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    This book provides some excellent advice to parents in child rearing. I only wish I had this book and knew about postive parenting when my children were first born. I am trying to incorporate the suggestions into dealing with my 13 year old twins boys and my 18 year old daughter. Positive parenting methods are also worthwhile for dealing with adult relationships too.I recommend it to all parents and suggest it as a perfect baby gift.

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